Join me for “Intimacy With Self” -
a 6-week LIVE journey to become unapologetically heart-open and deeply intimate with yourself, with life, with spirit…. And your current or future romantic partner
Allow the medicine of Cacao, breathwork, Tantra and community to support you in softening and receiving all the pleasure, passion, love and connection you crave
Join me for
“Intimacy With Self” -
a 6-week LIVE journey to become unapologetically heart-open and deeply intimate with yourself, with life, with spirit…. And your current or future romantic partner
Allow the medicine of Cacao, breathwork, Tantra and community to support you in softening and receiving all the pleasure, passion, love and connection you crave
Are you the kind of person who feels and loves DEEPLY? But ends up getting hurt or disappointed in some way?
I see you.
Maybe you’ve been burnt in relationships and experienced a lot of heartbreak.
Maybe you’ve been ghosted and it was painful (but you also ghosted and never cleared that energy).
Maybe you’re highly successful and a strong, nurturing person who shows up for friends, family and everyone else…
But at the end of the day you feel alone and like no one is showing up for YOU.
It’s so exhausting to be the strong one and support everyone else emotionally…
When your own heart actually feels heavy and sad deep within.
Do you secretly wish there was someone who’s showing up for YOU like you are for other people around you?
Someone to nurture and take care of you, someone you can lean on and experience true, sacred intimacy with? Then…
Do you secretly wish there was someone who’s showing up for YOU like you are for other people around you?
Someone to nurture and take care of you, someone you can lean on and experience true, sacred intimacy with? Then…
Let me guess: Your heart craves deep intimacy and soulful connection… But somehow it’s not working out
I feel you.
If you’re attracting emotionally unavailable people and end up disappointed and frustrated, you’re not alone.
I’ve been on both sides of that, too.
I’ve been in a season in my life where I craved connection above all else…
But at the same time I couldn't open to real connection with another…. because I wasn’t able to connect to myself.
And while that was painful af, it makes perfect sense to me now.
Because the truth is…
You can’t be with an emotionally available partner, if you’re not emotionally available to yourself
If you’re not sensitive to what's around you, you cannot be fully present for somebody else.
I learned this the hard way.
For example I’ve heavily courted someone who said she didn’t feel the same about me as I felt for her….
But at the same time she said she’s still interested in me.
I felt confused, hurt and didn’t understand wtf was going on.
But later on I learned that one of her fear points was allowing a man close to her heart.
So even though she was interested, she kept me at a distance… Mirroring back my own pattern of not being able to fully open to intimacy, connection and love.
Sounds familiar? Then keep reading.
You can’t be with an emotionally available partner, if you’re not emotionally available to yourself
If you’re not sensitive to what's around you, you cannot be fully present for somebody else.
I learned this the hard way.
For example I’ve heavily courted someone who said she didn’t feel the same about me as I felt for her….
But at the same time she said she’s still interested in me.
I felt confused, hurt and didn’t understand wtf was going on.
But later on I learned that one of her fear points was allowing a man close to her heart.
So even though she was interested, she kept me at a distance… Mirroring back my own pattern of not being able to fully open to intimacy, connection and love.
Sounds familiar? Then keep reading.
This might surprise you but… I’ve been on both sides of the infamous “ghosting” culture too
Yup, it’s true.
I used to be so open to a new connection that felt like rainbows and gumdrops on an easy Sunday morning.
But then?
I’d pull out fast, quickly and in a hurry.
I would for some reason swallow my words and experience a debilitating feeling I couldn’t communicate…. so I would dip out and ghost. Hurting myself and the other person in the process.
Then as I began to break this pattern and heal?....
BOOM - I was given someone who love-bombed me which felt so beautifully intoxicating to receive since I decided to be ALL-IN to connection.
But guess what?
Another BOOM (last one for now-promise 😅)...
She dipped just as intensely as the love-bombing sparked…
And I’ve never heard from her again.
I realized I had to remove myself completely from this pattern and no longer wanted to be in that draining energy. So now you’re probably wondering…
How did I break the painful pattern that was holding me back from the deep connection and intimacy I craved?
No, I didn’t find the one magic unicorn person, that “made all my troubles disappear” 😅
I broke the pattern by focusing on nature itself.
By focusing on what’s around me and what’s inside of me.
By focusing on what I’m thinking and experiencing while being intentionally intimate with myself, with the emotions I was experiencing and the desires I really wanted.
Once I’ve made this change?
I became emotionally available to MYSELF.
Because THAT is the crucial foundation if you want to be emotionally available to another… And attract a partner who is emotionally available to you.
Is that what you desire?
Then it’s no mistake that you’re here. Because that’s exactly what you’ll create for yourself when you go through the process in my brand new program “Intimacy With Self”.
Hi, I’m Brenden!
If we haven’t met yet, allow me to introduce myself: I’m an Intimacy Expert on all 4 seasons of the popular Netflix show Too Hot To Handle, former professional athlete and mentor. My passion is helping people like you connect to peace, power and pleasure and feel the magic in everyday life.
I combine the ancient teachings and philosophy of Tantra and indigenous wisdom with the healing powers of Cacao and breathwork to create a safe space for you to experience deeper intimacy, love and passion for life.
In my brand new LIVE program Intimacy With Self I’ll take you on a 6 week journey to open your heart and receive all the connection, pleasure and intimacy you crave.
Hi, I’m Brenden!
If we haven’t met yet, allow me to introduce myself: I’m an Intimacy Expert on all 4 seasons of the popular Netflix show Too Hot To Handle, former professional athlete and mentor. My passion is helping people like you connect to peace, power and pleasure and feel the magic in everyday life.
I combine the ancient teachings and philosophy of Tantra and indigenous wisdom with the healing powers of Cacao and breathwork to create a safe space for you to experience deeper intimacy, love and passion for life.
In my brand new LIVE program Intimacy With Self I’ll take you on a 6 week journey to open your heart and receive all the connection, pleasure and intimacy you crave.
Take a deep breath with me and imagine a life where you are….
No longer searching for the perfect partner or other outside experiences to provide you the intimacy you crave because you are now able to offer it to yourself
More tantrically present with life, your purpose and your own wisdom
instead of caught up in negative self talk and critique
Feeling safe, peaceful and grounded in both masculine and feminine balance
Radiating confidence which attracts beautiful connections and kindred spirits into your life
Feeling connected to everything around you, with a new found connection to self and deeper connection with others - whether it’s friends, family or your romantic partner
Attuned to the messages nature, spirit and your heart offer you so that you feel guided and in alignment with your path
Rooted in certainty, knowing that pleasure and peace are non-negotiable and available in all of your relations
Wholeheartedly accepting and appreciating of who you are because you’ve let go of any lingering “unloveable” parts of yourself
Able to see heartbreak and pain as opportunities to grow and not set backs, so you can bounce back quicker and stronger than before
Grounded in a deep sense of your worth and emotionally available to yourself and your (future) partner
Yes? Do you resonate with even just or or all of the points above? Then it’s no mistake that you’re here.
Because this is exactly what you’ll create for yourself when you join me for my new LIVE program Intimacy With Self.
Welcome to Intimacy With Self - a 6-week LIVE journey to open your heart to more love,
deeper connection and intimacy with life
Intimacy with self is a LIVE online group program where we’ll use the medicine of cacao and breathwork combined with the wisdom of Tantra so that you can experience true intimacy with life, spirit, nature, in all your connections and most importantly - with yourself,
Are you ready to break the toxic patterns that keep you stuck in painful loops of heartbreak and disappointment… And to open your heart to more intimacy and love?
After traveling to 60 countries and being on my own journey of healing and expansion, I’ve discovered the 3 pillars that allow you to create Intimacy With Self
An open and receptive heart
an unshakeable devotion to alignment and
being able to physically, mentally, and emotionally HOLD all that you desire
An open and receptive heart
an unshakeable devotion to alignment and
being able to physically, mentally, and emotionally HOLD all that you desire
And in the Intimacy With Self program, we’ll not just talk about these pillars… But we’ll use 3 beautiful tools and medicines that allow you to truly cultivate and embody a lasting sense of intimacy with life itself. Here’s how:
Pillar 1: When you’re unapologetically heart-open you’re making a claim to the universe that you’re willing to receive.
The medicine we will work with to support you in opening your heart and becoming soft and receptive is cacao. Get ready to experience the beautiful qualities of this sacred plant or deepen your relationship with cacao to create more intimacy and connection.
Pillar 2: When you have an unshakeable devotion to the things that light your heart on fire you become a force of purposeful intention. Everything you do points back to nourishing that desire.
The medicine we will work with to support your devotion and nourish your desires is your breath. Your breath is hands down the most powerful tool you have, it’s free and available to you at all times.
So whether you’re already experienced in breathwork or ready to start your journey, I am truly excited to share this transformative and expansive tool with you.
Pillar 3: Many times you say that you desire something but DO NOT have the energetic capacity to both manifest and maintain what you asked for.
If you have big dreams and desires, you need a strong container to hold it.
This is where the wisdom and teachings of Tantra come in to support you. We’ll go through practices and rituals together that help you expand your capacity to receive, feel pleasure and manifest your desires and dreams.
Join me for 6 weeks of healing, expansion and transformation into a new version of you
Here’s what we’ll explore and go through week by week in the Intimacy With Self program:
Week 1 - Intimacy with SELF
In our first week together we’ll dive deep into foundationally who you are at the core. This week is all about self-enquiry. “Who am I?” “Why am I the way that I am?” We’ll use the beautiful roadmap of astrology and thought provoking questions to deepen the understanding of self.
Week 2- Intimacy with THE SPIRIT REALM, NATURE AND THE ANCESTORS
In our second week we’ll journey into the spirit realm and create connections with our guides and internal compass that’ll support your path in this life. The spirit realm is a database we can all access.
Week 3 - Intimacy with PAIN
In our third week we’re exploring pain, shadow and getting a little messy, but a good mess (I promise) there’s nothing that I’ll invite you to do that I haven’t done myself…. And I promise you it’s worth journeying through the shadows to experience more light.
Week 4 - Intimacy with PEACE
In week four after delving into the depths of our shadow we’ll bask in the warm afterglow of building intimacy with our shadow. You will learn how to cultivate a sense of peace in your mind, body and spirit. Peace leads to pleasure.
Week 5 - Intimacy with PLEASURE
In week five I’ll be sharing tantric intimacy and pleasure practices that you can apply ASAP. We get to demystify the conversation and relationship to pleasure that’s deemed as taboo in our society.
Week 6 - Intimacy with PURPOSE
In week six we’ll be in FULL swing of the spring equinox energy. The seeds of healing, inspiration and new found intimacy will now be breaking ground facing the sun nurturing the fruits of our labor to ripen.
Here’s what we’ll explore and go through week by week in the Intimacy With Self program:
Week 1 - Intimacy with SELF
In our first week together we’ll dive deep into foundationally who you are at the core. This week is all about self-enquiry. “Who am I?” “Why am I the way that I am?” We’ll use the beautiful roadmap of astrology and thought provoking questions to deepen the understanding of self.
Week 2- Intimacy with THE SPIRIT REALM, NATURE AND THE ANCESTORS
In our second week we’ll journey into the spirit realm and create connections with our guides and internal compass that’ll support your path in this life. The spirit realm is a database we can all access. (Connection/Support)
Week 3 - Intimacy with PAIN
In our third week we’re exploring pain, shadow and getting a little messy, but a good mess (I promise) there’s nothing that I’ll invite you to do that I haven’t done myself…. And I promise you it’s worth journeying through the shadows to experience more light.
Week 4 - Intimacy with PEACE
In week four after delving into the depths of our shadow we’ll bask in the warm afterglow of building intimacy with our shadow. You will learn how to cultivate a sense of peace in your mind, body and spirit. Peace leads to pleasure.
Week 5 - Intimacy with PLEASURE
In week five I’ll be sharing tantric intimacy and pleasure practices that you can apply ASAP. We get to demystify the conversation and relationship to pleasure that’s deemed as taboo in our society.
Week 6 - Intimacy with PURPOSE
In week six we’ll be in FULL swing of the spring equinox energy. The seeds of healing, inspiration and new found intimacy will now be breaking ground facing the sun nurturing the fruits of our labor to ripen.
I lead my experiences intuitively and in alignment with what our group needs… And here’s what you’ll receive during our 6 weeks together:
Weekly Breathwork Sessions to build a champion nervous system that can regulate through any uncomfortable situation
Meditations to clear your mind, body and spirit
Tantric Intimacy Rituals to deepen awareness to what’s always in front of you
LIVE Q&A sessions with me where you can ask your personal questions and receive my support
Weekly LIVE Group Calls where explore and expand together in community
Guest Experts who’ve supported my life and journey who’ll add new tools and perspectives that you can implement right away
A beautiful Cacao Practice to tap deeper into your heart, worth and the earth
Integration Week in between to take a break and let the cosmic dust settle into a new version of you
Recordings of all calls and sessions so that you’ll never miss out or feel left behind and you can catch up at your own pace!
Plus you’ll receive these beautiful bonuses as my gift to you
BONUS #1 FREE 1lb Ceremonial Grade Block of Cacao - Limited to the first 20 people who join
You’ll receive a block of the same ceremonial grade cacao from an indigenous woman owned collective that I use, delivered to your doorstep. It’s one of my favorites 🤤
BONUS #2 My Favorite Tools and Practices Checklist
Whether you’ve never created an altar in your space or you’re a pro ready to expand yours, I’ll show you how to create a sacred space to connect to the energy of intimacy and your heart. Even if you’re traveling!
And much more…
BONUS #3 How to create or expand your altar for connection and intimacy
Whether you’ve never created an altar in your space or you’re a pro ready to expand yours, I’ll show you how to create a sacred space to connect to the energy of intimacy and your heart. Even if you’re traveling!
BONUS #2 My Favorite Tools and Practices Checklist
Whether you’ve never created an altar in your space or you’re a pro ready to expand yours, I’ll show you how to create a sacred space to connect to the energy of intimacy and your heart. Even if you’re traveling!
BONUS #3 How to create or expand your altar for connection and intimacy
Whether you’ve never created an altar in your space or you’re a pro ready to expand yours, I’ll show you how to create a sacred space to connect to the energy of intimacy and your heart. Even if you’re traveling!
And much more…
Are you ready to say yes to experiencing deep intimacy with yourself, with life, with spirit…. And your current or future romantic partner?
Then join me for the 6 week Intimacy With Self Program now.
$2997
$997
There's a 3-part payment plan available for you
What Others Have Experienced Through Brenden's Work
“Brenden has redefined what Tantra means for me. I used to think it was only sexual and meant sex but he has helped me see that Tantra is a sensory lifestyle.”
-Rebecca L.
“Brenden is a diamond geezer and we need more lads like him in the world.”
-English Actor
Daniel Sharman
I just wanted to send a personal thank you for your “Yes”. As a result of listening to your guidance and creating such a powerful community, my life has been changed completely!!
-Aminah
Not only was Brenden’s group exactly what I needed at the moment, but the friendships and connections made through the groups have become long withstanding and a source of continued nurturance and expansion for me both personally and business wise. I am deeply grateful!
-Iso’ke
Brenden taught me how I can show up as a strong man with a soft heart. His guidance with cacao and breathwork helped me have more present relationship with my wife and kids.
-Jeremy
As a mom, yoga teacher and business owner I wanted to try something new and only be a student without having to lead or coach. This breathwork and cacao experience allowed me to show up for myself and only give when my cup is overflowing.
-Stephanie
A heads up just so we’re clear. This program is not a sex-based or “finding your soulmate” experience.
This program will challenge you to dig deeper into yourself so that you can be in the best position possible to receive all that life has to offer you.
There’s a huge misconception that Tantra is all about f****, kink and sex orgies.
In reality Tantra is devotion. It’s having a patient and compassionate heart. In actuality an innocent heart.
“Innocent heart?” Yup.
Ya know, one of my Tantra teachers - a highly respected monk from Asia - told me he wouldn’t have agreed to teach me if I didn’t have an innocent heart.
The teachings of Tantra are sacred and it’s not for the faint of heart to live a life where you are a keeper of awareness and wisdom.
So if you’re looking for quick fast food style pleasure and sex tips, this experience may not be it for you.
However: If you apply yourself to the teachings I am certain you’ll experience profound intimacy and your own version of peace, power and pleasure.
If you’re tired of searching for love and connection outside of yourself and ending up disappointed and hurt… Then join me now for Intimacy With Self and this 6-week journey to open your heart to experience deep intimacy with life itself.
Still have questions about the program? Here are all my answers for you:
Do I really need cacao? Can I do the program without cacao?
While I recommend that you do use cacao to support your process, you can absolutely go through the program without cacao as well. However ceremonial grade cacao offers a unique introspective practice that adds to intimacy.
How do I get cacao? Can I just buy some at the supermarket?
Unfortunately but very fortunately the ceremonial cacao that I use is grown and harvested ethically by indigenous owned communities. Not all cacao is prepared the same. I will provide my favorite resources for ethically sourced cacao so that you can easily get yours from a trusted and beautiful source.
Is there a payment plan available?
Yes, of course. You can get started and join the program today for just $377. Here’s how: Once you click the button to join, you’ll be guided to a payment form where you can simply choose the 3-part payment plan.
Do I get 1:1 time with Brenden?
This experience is created for community. You however have the opportunity to join our LIVE Q&A calls, ask me your personal questions and receive answers and guidance from me in this container.
What happens during the group sessions?
The group session will take place in our private Zoom room. You’ll tune in with an open mind and heart and receive the themed teachings via breathwork, meditation and conversation. It’ll be a beautiful, safe and intimate space for you to connect to others and yourself.
What if I miss a live session?
Don’t worry, we will record everything for you!. So if you can’t make it live to all the sessions, you’ll have the opportunity to watch all the session recordings on your own time and revisit them as many times as you like.
What if I change my mind later? Can I get a refund?
Since this program is a live experience where I show up to be on calls and go through practices with you every week, no refunds will be offered once you commit.
I have never done breathwork or worked with ceremonial cacao before, can I still join?
YES! This course is for you, whether you are experienced with breathwork and cacao or it’s your first time. I’ll guide you through the processes step by step and you won’t be left behind.